Eyes Wide OPEN- - Not shut anymore
Well folks, it's everywhere. That's right, SEX!
I just read a question in the articles section asking "If
2 parties are having sex does it matter if they're married
or not?"
I was raised in the biblebelt in Southeastern NC, so saying
that, I should reply, "Marriage is sacred, you shouldn't
commit adultry, especially with someone who is also married."
Well, from past experience is just this:
It's just to plain hard to think of having sex w/just
1 man/woman for the rest of your life. It gets boring. No
matter how much in love with the person you are, you always
will wonder or see someone else that will turn your eye &
make you wonder.
I just recently got married but we have been living together
for 2 years prior. Another backwoods law of social
etiquette from the South that I broke. Down here it's
called "shacking up" and YES half my family
looked down on the relationship and foresaw failure in
my new future by doing so.
Well, here we are married and happy as can be! :) After both
being through failed marriages we have both discussed
what makes it work. He and I work together on my days off from
my main job, we go everywhere together when we're off
from work, and he taught me something about sex and making
love.
My new husband has taught me that there is a difference.
He definition of making love does not even require penetration
at all! I thought he was full of it in the beginning, but over
the years have realized the truth in his words. I hold him
every night like he is a baby. I literally wrap myself and
mold myself around his body and we lie there naked caressed
in a unyielding pose. We lay there for hours touching, caressing,
talking, laughing together about things, the smell &
texture of our skin together. It's much more than what
I use to think of as "making love". That's
the art of making love, but theres no vagina or penis involved.
Sex is just an act. Satisfying a sexual pleasure that you
have inside. It could be with anyone.
So to answer that question from the article I read earlier:
NO, it shouldn't matter if your married or not. The
reason that works for my husband and I is that it's better
to do so together than apart. To be there and watch is like
a LIVE XXX movie. I do refuse to kiss anyone else that I am
with, kissing is to personal just for sex.
Living with this new idealogy that I've learned, my
new spouse and I are positive that unlike previous marriages
that failed due to our "ex-s" infidelities,
and other reasons on our parts, we will last and love one
another forever.
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