re: what is so hard in saying "no thanks"
There are so many problems involved with saying "thank
you for your interest, but no thanks".
First and foremost. Many if not most messages that women
and couples get are from people who do not meet many or all
of their preferences. Your SEX, age, distance and body
type/race/wants are always of the utmost importance.
If you are a guy looking for women, 18 to 25, slim, and within
50 miles of you, would you settle for a guy, 45, large and
2000 miles away? Send emails and winks to profiles that
have a cupid rating of more than 3 stars.
2ndly. Do not just fire off a "hey lets fuck"
email. Read the profile if you are able to, and only send
polite emails to the ones that seem to be a match in each others
desires. If you can not read their profile, be up front about
it and say that "I am only going by what I am able to see".
3rd. Let the member know that you would like a response,
even if a "no thanks". Remind them that you have
followed and abided by every rule that you were able to see,
and thank them in advance. You might also remind them that
ANY member can respond to an email sent to them - even if they
are "standard" members.
4th. You might also let them know that you WILL NOT contact
them again except to say "thank you for your response",
if they decline your invitation to talk. IF YOU DO THIS make
sure that you keep your word no matter what the out come,
or no matter how nasty the response may be. Many people actually
will respect you for keeping your word.
NOW what will these 4 steps accomplish if people follow
these simple rules?
STEP 1 - There will be fewer emails for women and couples
to view, and these will be closer to what they are looking
for. OR more responses instead of the automatic delete.
STEP 2 - By being polite and showing that you actually read
what you were able to of their profile, you gain a reputation
of being truthful and considerate.
STEPS 3 and 4 - If you keep your word some members will actually
pass your handle to their friends, some may even remember
you and start up a conversation later.
Just remember people you will be remembered and how you
act will get around very quickly. I have seen so many profiles
get iggy'd in chat rooms for pure stupidity or "coming
in burning"....
If you want SEX NOW! Go to a street corner or look up "escorts"
in your local newspaper. If you wish to find someone compatable,
take your time, be patient, be polite, read the articles
about how to act/what to do, and finally join some groups/chat
rooms.
Truely this is more than a hunt, it is more like hunting for
that elusive needle in a mountainous haystack. So try to
narrow your search to the ones who are looking for you, not
try to make the ones you are looking for accept what they
are not looking for.
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