Just Listen
Sometimes the best thing you can do in a relationship is
listen. The tempation when someone is talking to you about
their troubles is to fix them for that person. That is usually
the worse thing to do. Most of us are intelligent enough
to figure things out for ourselves, but we need a sounding
board to test our solutions on. That sounding board is our
mates. So, whenever your lover comes to you to tell you about
how bad a day they had or what a crummy situation they are
in, just listen, nod, and make agreeable sounds like "I
see." Pretty soon, your lover will start to work his
or her way through options to fix things theirselves, they
may even ask what you think. Remember, just give a short
answer backing them up, that's what their looking
for. Don't be a rescuer. They will thank you for supporting
them, and you will give them an ego boost too. Plus, you just
gained relationship points in their eyes for caring enough
to listen. Atta boy!
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