No Need for No Thanks. Thanks, but No Thanks
No news IS good news, and while many good people still believe
in being courteous to others and expecting like treatment
in return, I've learned not to take the impersonal
impersonally. It's not so very different here from
a construction worker who may 'cat call' women
who walk by the site where he's working. 199 out of 200
will ignore him, but there's always that one who's
ready to surprise him nicely
I've not only seen quantity determining success,
but quality all the more. This holds truer beyond first
impressions. I had a girlfriend once who could deep throat
what few women before her could fit between their legs,
and the sex was great until we hit upon hard economic times
together, and she had an affair while I was out of town looking
for a better job. I learned from my new roommate after she
moved out on me that he'd witnessed her tryst w/ my friend.
I could've taken this news too personally, but I thought
about it for awhile and realized the favor that he'd
done me in the long run.
I actually confronted him, watched as his eyes would not
look into mine for what I knew, and then thanked him for bringing
an end to that superficial relationship. His quiet response
was too priceless.
In conclusion, if you don't get a reply to your sincere
inquiry here, don't take it personally, but be thankful
that you may have dodged a superficial bullet. For those
who do respond by politely declining your offer, you may
want to reconsider your approach it in light of what they
seek ...and be honest w/ yourself before being so w/ all
those who follow. Face it. We're not the magic wand
they seek. -tj
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